WEDDING WEDNESDAY: Choosing Your Bridesmaids….


You got engaged. The Wedding Planning has begun. You’ve started looking at dresses, ceremony and reception locations, you’re doing research online…. and then it comes. That moment to choose your Bridal Party. Decisions, decisions!

For the Groom it always seems to be as easy as choosing a cereal in the morning. The asking part is even quicker….. “Hey, so, want to be in my Wedding? Yeah? Sweet.” and that’s that. Your future husband has his Groomsmen lined up and is on to more important things, like deciding what to have for dinner.

Choosing your Bridesmaids is a whole other story! It’s a calculated decision that’s close to heart…. and with all important decisions seems to come frustration, anxiety and panic (you know, like that feeling you get while at the MAC cosmetics store looking through the eyeshadows. Which of the 30,000 will you buy?! Important decisions like that!) So take a breath because here are a few personal tips to remember while choosing the best of the best to be by your side on that special day:

Your Wedding Means Just As Much To Her As It Does To You

The old rule of thumb was to ask your relatives (and Groom’s relatives) to be part of the Bridal Party, but times have changed. Weddings have stepped away from the “Traditional” route and have embraced the “Personal” approach of each couple.  Your Bridesmaids will be with you not only on your actual Wedding Day but during the bridal events that come before….. their attitude makes a difference. Choose the girls that you know in your heart will be happy to be there, will look past any Bridezillaness (which of course you’ll do your best to prevent, obvs!) and aren’t likely to bring the day/mood down. They may not be genetically related, but you’d never know it from their joy for you!

She Wants To Participate In Your Bridal Events 

There’s a big difference between wanting to be somewhere than feeling obligated to be somewhere. Don’t get me wrong…. but Bridesmaid dress shopping and fittings aren’t everyones cup of tea. I’m not saying that they should be ecstatic to be there, but there should be some sort of desire at heart to be happy to be there for you. So be honest with yourself and keep your friends personal feelings in mind as well. If there is someone who you know would rather be cheering for you on the day of, with the rest of your guests (and probably get the best guest award) then be understanding of that and don’t pressure them to be a Bridesmaid or be offended if they choose to pass….. this title is simply not for everyone. So let the ones who truly want it enjoy it 🙂

You Personally Tell Her About Your Life 

Through the lovely world of social media, we have the ability to share our lives with such detail that our Facebook, Twitter and Instagram friends feel like they see us everyday. Still, there are those women that you personally reach out to and spill all the details with. They’re there for Girls Night Out, they knew you got engaged because you told them rather then just seeing a photo posted online, they celebrate your work promotions with you, your family knows them, they’ve seen you laugh and cry…. possibly at the same time 😉 Your Wedding Day is a momentous and personal time that should be shared by the ladies that are present in your life at that moment. Perhaps you haven’t seen each other in a while due to distance, but the relationship remains just as strong. And remember…. bathroom trips in Wedding dresses can be tricky! You’ll only trust your closest girls for help 😉


Most importantly…. have fun and enjoy the moment! There are lots of ideas out there on how to ask your Bridesmaids to be a part of your Wedding Party so go all out with the invites 🙂 It will be an eventful journey ahead so be sure to document every step of the way by creating your own hashtag! That right there can be your first official Bridesmaid assignment…. have your girls make sure everyone is hashtagging! You’re welcome 😉



Photo Credits:  Photo 1  |   Photo 2


GS Weddings: Consider The First Look


By this time, I’m sure most have heard of the “First Look” concept on a Wedding Day.  A very modern notion of when the Bride and Groom get to see each other prior to the ceremony. From a traditional stand point, I can definitely understand why couples would opt to skip the First Look and wait to see each other for the first time when walking down the aisle. Truth be told, I personally was not fond of the First Look idea….. but that was probably the fairytale lover in me. However, once I ventured into Wedding Photography I not only fell in love with the whole First Look part of a wedding but understood how beneficial it is for the wedding timeline. It is a beautiful moment between the Bride and Groom and also allows me the time needed to get those gorgeous couple portraits that every couple wants. All pros aside…. this idea is still not for everyone. But if you are on the fence about it here are my personal thoughts on the idea 😉

Sharing Your First Moments Together 

Before the emotions and events of the day begin to happen, there’s something so peaceful  of enjoying a romantic moment before hand as a sort of “kick off” for the day. The difference of him seeing you before the Ceremony rather than while you’re walking down the aisle is that you can actually have a conversation…. and ladies, we all want to know “OMG, what does he think of my dress??” 😉

You Are Photo Ready 

Let’s face it, your couple portraits are going to be the most important photos of the day so you definitely want to look your best – a.k.a. before the tears – so the First Look allows for you to put your freshly-makeup’d face forward. The excitement of getting into your dress is still there, the joy over what’s to come is at an all time high….. who better to share that with than the man you’ll be sharing your whole life with? Exactly!

Timing Is Everything 

As much as we all push to remain on schedule, it’s a given that sometimes that just doesn’t happen. Your couple portraits should not fall victims of a time issue…. enter the First Look. Making it a point to ensure that your portraits are done early in the day will give you that warm fuzzy feeling that if photo time is cut short you’ve already been there, done that 😉

Whatever moment you choose to have your future husband see you for the first time, know that it will be spectacular! There is no right or wrong way of doing things…. there’s simply what’s right for you as a couple. So don’t be afraid to try new things because it just might end up being picture perfect 😉



Photo by Crystal Nicole 

The Proposal Giveaway….


In celebration of the beginning of a new journey here at With Grace and Style, we decided that what better way to celebrate than with a Giveaway of another incredible beginning to a new journey…. A Wedding Proposal!

With Grace and Style will be teaming up with one future Groom who is ready to pop the question to his lovely future Bride and not only coordinate the Proposal but capture the moment as well 😉

Simply email your Name, Contact Information and photo of the two of you to to be eligible to have your Proposal coordinated by the With Grace & Style Team and have the moment captured with Crystal Nicole Photography.

Note: Couple must be located within the Southern California areas & location fees are not included. 

We can’t wait to help one lucky lady get one step closer to her Happily Ever After….. Cheers! 😉

Photo by Crystal Nicole

To New Beginnings….

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So here it is…the journey has begun and we start with the first post of With Grace & Style. Now, being the newbie to this whole blogging world I would probably have preferred that my dearest Crystal would start us off but I get it….you just don’t know till you do it! So here I am….I am doing it….or at least trying…(nervous laugh) So I decided to talk about the first wedding dress you saw, because mine prompted my lifelong dreams and the birth of With Grace & Style..

Wedding dresses are somewhat the focal point of a Bride’s day…it begins when you are first engaged. Once you are engaged, everyone wants to know the date and then all about THE DRESS. What does it look like, do you have pictures, what color is it..they want to know every single detail! I remember! I was a bride not too long ago and believe me, all I cared about was my dress! (Besides the fact that I had my prince charming waiting at the end of the altar…..and my dress… :) ) I didn’t want anyone to touch it, go near it, breathe on it, or even look at it for that matter…it was a sudden case of bridezilla on my part (in which I apologize profusely to everyone that had to deal with me at that moment) But, next to choosing your Prince Charming, choosing your dress is the next big item on your wedding checklist. But I promise…..for you brides that are nervous about finding it….it’s not that hard, because once you see it, you will know. :)

Every little girl remembers the first time that they saw a wedding dress. The bride was decked out with her perfect hair, shining jewelry, her TO DIE for heels (because heels make the dress) and her fabulous ball gown, or princess dress as I called it….she was a real life princess!!! The first time I saw a bride was when I was around seven years old and in the check out line of a Michael’s….she was on the cover of a Bridal Magazine, covered in jewels and wearing a crown. She was the most beautiful thing I had ever seen!! After begging and pleading my mom to buy this fairytale book, she gave in, making my life’s dreams and aspirations begin..

So now we are here..fourteen years later and my childhood dreams are FINALLY coming true.(Happy Dance, Happy Dance) Jumping from one job to another, I have had my experience in many different occupations…….. but I never felt like I was doing what my heart wanted. I knew I wanted to be apart of creating someone’s fairytale day (weddings) I just didn’t know how. (or ever thought that that would ever come true) But after many bags of popcorn and countless reruns of the Wedding Planner I knew that this was my calling! Now I just needed a way to do it…..then came With Grace & Style.

So you’re probably asking yourself, what exactly is With Grace & Style?….Simply put, we are a new wedding/lifestyle brand, with two girls who are pouring out their heart’s passions and dreams! We want to journey with you through your wedding planning, your fairytale wedding day, and your life after! Everyone else may say that you are only a bride once, but in our eyes you are always a bride!

 Here at With Grace & Style, once you are apart of the G&S Family, you are in…for like always! We don’t want to just build business, we want relationships! So stay tuned for fun DIYS, yummy recipes, home decor ideas, and wedding tips…

Cheers to new beginnings and living out childhood dreams!

Au Revoir for now,


Photo by Kelsey De Ruyter